Life has never been busier or so full of distractions. Take a minute to understand why you react to chaos the way you do and then implement these three easy tips to transform the chaos into a productive calm.
Work (and life) has never been more hectic or messy and, like a blender with the lid off, the more you crank it up, the messier it gets.
You throw more and more balls in the air, and work longer and longer hours in a vain attempt to keep everything afloat. You don’t dare take your eyes off the balls, and while juggling you become more and more disconnected from yourself and others, until you stop one day and wonder what happened to your health, your relationships and the love you used to have for your job.
You are drowning in expectations, key performance indicators (KPI) and deadlines. Even people you think of as successful are screaming on the inside and wishing it would slow down. Somehow, society has reached the point where being busy and overwhelmed is a badge to wear with honour.
In the words of Dr Brene Brown, “Exhaustion has become a status symbol”. We have become slaves to being busy. The chaos is not going anywhere. Hoping you can hold on until it stops is a futile coping technique.
Fortunately, there are things you can do to move from the chief of chaos to the custodian of calm, despite the daily turmoil you find yourself immersed in.
The outmoded concept of ‘productivity’
Productivity was a relevant concept at the start of the industrial revolution, when we were trying to produce more identical products out of a manufacturing line in a shorter amount of time.
Surely that is no longer our goal? Will working more hours, producing more low-quality emails, or making more phone calls even though they tick off KPI for the month, really result in the outcomes we should be chasing?
Shouldn’t our goals now be related to the quality of the conversations we have and the connections we make, rather than the quantity? Shouldn’t we now be talking about ‘strategy’ rather than ‘productivity’?
What if at the start of each day, you were strategic and:
- Set your intention for the day with a focus on what you want to achieve, rather than spend the day mindlessly reacting. Your attention is driven by your intention. You can set it yourself or you can let others and ‘urgency’ decide where your attention and energy will be directed.
- Set strong boundaries: One manager I know has a tiara on her desk that she wears when she needs quiet time to complete a project. She says, ‘No one messes with the queen. When I put my tiara on, that is who I become and the staff leave me alone.’
- Start ditching goals you have ignored for ages, activities that are a waste of time and people who drain you. Stop the unhelpful stuff and turn your attention to people and things that really matter and will give you the greatest impact. Hanging onto all the rest just wastes time and energy (but provides a fantastic breeding ground for guilt).
Your brain is trying to kill you
One of the reasons it is so difficult to cope with chaos in the workplace is because of the way our brains has evolved. They are hardwired to notice changes in your environment.
Thousands of years ago, these sudden changes could be a signal warning that we might be in danger of becoming breakfast for a sabre tooth tiger. What used to keep us safe now drives us bonkers. We are easily distracted by emails, text messages, conversations in the adjacent work station, ringing phones and the beeping of the printer that has run out of paper and which everyone else is managing to ignore.
Our brains are so hardwired to look for change in our environment that we are distracted by almost everything and anything that changes from one moment to the next.
Fortunately, overcoming our brain’s wiring is a matter of choosing to behave differently. You can do simple things to help yourself, such as put your mobile phone in a drawer, turn off the email alert or close your door. If you desperately need to be away from distractions, take yourself to a coffee shop for a bit and divert your phone. Find ways to work with your brain.
It is like the person you have been in a long-term relationship with; there is no chance of changing how it behaves, so it is best to change how you behave.
When it’s not trying to kill you, your brain is getting you addicted
Your brain comes with its own internal reward drug known as dopamine. When you finish a job, the high you get is due to dopamine. Each time you take a step towards a goal or cross something off your ‘to do’ list, dopamine goes wham and gives you a nice little feel-good boost.
Dopamine not only feels good, it is also addictive. Do you feel like you have to constantly check emails, tweets, Facebook or text messages? Do you feel lost if you are without your phone? Dopamine is the reason.
Each time we check and there is a message we like, we get a hit of dopamine as a reward. This is why we are constantly compelled to search for messages in the same way a gambling addict is constantly compelled to keep trying for the lucky bet. So no wonder it is so challenging to break our phone, email and social media habits!
The best way to deal with the way our brain behaves is to remove the distractions by shutting down the alerts, putting our phone in another room or any other cunning strategy you can come up with.
You can harness the power of dopamine for good by giving yourself a creative environment to work in, breaking big projects down into smaller chunks you can tick off, playing motivating music or going for a walk in your lunch break.
Make use of the ‘reward circuitry’ in your brain to get you fired up and in control of your working day. Each time you tick off a task on your list, your brain rewards you with a dopamine boost to get you excited and motivated for the next one.
Look after yourself first
Hip, hip, hooray for putting other people first and its nobility as an idea. Yes, it is important for us to provide service to our community (work, friends, family etc), but the best way to do that is to sleep well, eat well and look after our own physical and mental wellbeing.
Only then do we have what it takes to be switched on to making decisions, being present in conversations and motivated to take action.
If you are not looking after yourself, it will be difficult for you to implement any of the actions that will be helpful to getting your life back in control.
How to get from the chief of chaos to the custodian of calm
The simple truth is that working harder at working hard isn’t helping to take away the chaos and the panic that has become habitual in our working life. We need to do something else.
So, when the smelly stuff is hitting the fan in your workplace and you don’t know how you are going to get to the end of the day, try this:
- Stop: Seriously stop what you’re doing – the rushing, the internal chatter about the serious situation you are in, and breathe … several times in and out. Pause and take stock of what is really going on. Get out of panic and back into control.
- Prioritise: Do it like a pro. Act as if you were in the emergency department of a hospital. What needs your attention immediately and what can wait. Work out what is serious and what is a sniffle that can be sent home. Outsource what you can and tackle the stuff that really needs tackling.
- Act: Calmly, purposefully and in the direction of your choosing to take action. As an army officer once said to me, ‘Leaders don’t run as it panics the troops’.
When you have done these three things, do them again … and again and again until they have become habitual. At that point, you will have moved from being the chief of chaos to the custodian of calm.
Petris Lapis is an independent business and leadership coach. She holds degrees in commerce and law and has previously worked in finance, accounting and as a university law lecturer.
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